“It’s like apples and oranges.”
I’ve heard this saying throughout my life, but it was always applied to objects or concepts that had foundational differences from each other. But it can easily be applied to human beings. One human being to any another human being is like comparing an apple to an orange. Sure, there are fundamental similarities between all human beings, but how fair is it to compare oneself to someone else?
I have compared myself up (to someone “better” than me) and down (to someone I am “better” than) and I’m not sure it is ever beneficial to me in the long-run. But it’s instinct. Everybody does it, sometimes subconsciously. We do it to puff ourselves up or to beat ourselves down. But at the end of the day we are comparing our apple self to another orange self. It just isn’t practical.
There are too many variables that shape who we are and who we become: our biology and genetics, where we grew up, who raised us, who our teachers were, who we loved and who loved us. Take into account all these factors and throw in some feelings and emotions…it’s kind of a mess. Each one of us is such a mess of things. To attempt a fair comparison of two heaps of seemingly random things is enough to make one go insane.
So every time I do it to myself, compare myself to another…well, I gotta go back to this entry as a healthy reminder. I’m comparing my apple self to another orange self.